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My Relationship Is Boring – How To Make It Exciting Again?

Many of us have had the thought, my relationship is boring. So the question is what to do next. First, is it really boring or is it really a comfortable relationship. If it is boring, there are a lot of things you can do. See below for 10 tips to make your relationship more exciting and fulfilling.

Is My Relationship Boring Or Maybe It Is OK Because I Am Comfortable?

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Many times a relationship may seem routine, but the question is is it boring or just comfortable. Other questions are you feeling restless with your partner, or do you feel at peace and at ease? Indeed, In fact, if you are feeling comfortable with your loved one that is good because you trust them. Here are some tips to distinguish if you’re bored or comfortable.

  • Are You Anxious or Or Are You Calm? Boredom causes anxiety. Whereas comfort brings calmness.
  • Do You Want Something New or Are You Content? Boredom indicates wanting something new. By comparison, comfort indicates contentment.
  • Do You Keep Secrets or Are You Open? Boredom makes you keep secrets. On the other hand, comfort makes you open in your relationship.
  • Are You Excited or Indifferent About Your Relationship? Boredom causes indifference. Conversely, comfort creates excitement.
  • Do You Feel Trapped or Safe? Boredom makes you feel trapped. By comparison, comfort makes you feel safe.
  • Do You Need a Change or Are You Fulfilled? Boredom means you need a change. In contrast, comfort means you’re fulfilled.

For more information on determining if your relationship is boring or comfortable, see SeetyHigh’s How to Tell If You’re Bored in Your Relationship, or Just Comfortable.

So My Relationship Is Boring – What Should We Do About It?

Are you feeling like your relationship is becoming boring? Indeed, it’s natural for relationships to go through periods of stagnation. However, it’s important to recognize the signs and take action to keep your relationship alive. Here are some tips to help you get out of a rut and make your relationship exciting again.

1. Recognizing the Problem.

The first step to fixing a boring relationship is recognizing that there is a problem. If you’re feeling like your relationship is becoming dull and unfulfilling, it’s important to take the time to assess the situation and figure out what’s causing the boredom.

2. Assessing the Situation.

Once you’ve identified the problem, it’s time to assess the situation. Ask yourself what activities you and your partner used to do together that you don’t do anymore. Are there any new activities that you’d like to try? Are there any habits that you’ve both fallen into that are contributing to the boredom? What parts of the relationship aren’t working for you right now? 

Is there something you want to change?  Are you looking for something new, or are you just hoping to shake up your day to day routine a little? 

3. Exploring New Activities.

Once you’ve identified the problem and assessed the situation, it’s time to start exploring new activities. Try to think of activities that you and your partner can do together that you haven’t done before. This could be anything from going on a hike to trying a new restaurant. Other ideas include visit new places together, find new tv shows to watch together, go to a sports event, or attend a concert together. Additionally, go hiking, sign up for a couple’s cooking class, try a new sport like skiing or kayaking, or create a scrapbook or photo book of some of your favorite memories as a couple.

4. Setting New Goals

Once you’ve identified some new activities to try, it’s time to set some goals. Think of some goals that you and your partner can work towards together. At the same time avoid unrealistic expectations. To illustrate, your mutual goals could be anything from learning a new language to taking a cooking class. In brief, you are making plans for the future.

5. Re-evaluating Habits.

It’s also important to take a look at your current habits and see if there are any that are contributing to the boredom in your relationship. Are there any activities that you and your partner used to do together that you don’t do anymore? Are there any habits that you’ve both fallen into that are contributing to the boredom?

6. Communicating with Your Partner.

Communication is key to any successful relationship. Make sure that you and your partner are communicating openly and honestly about your feelings and what you both want out of the relationship. Also, learn more about your partner by asking question. Equally important, your strengthen your communications and show your love through physical inimacy. Also, flirt with you partner to enhance communications.

7. Practicing Mindfulness.

Mindfulness is an important part of any relationship. Take the time to be mindful of your thoughts, feelings, and actions. Specifically, be aware of how you are impacting your relationship. Moreover, ask yourself if you are putting in your share of the work

8. Seeking Professional Help.

If you’re feeling like you’re in a rut and can’t seem to get out of it, it may be time to seek professional help. A therapist or counselor can help you and your partner work through any issues that may be contributing to the boredom in your relationship.

9. Trying Something New.

It’s important to keep things fresh and exciting in your relationship. Try something new together, whether it’s a new hobby or a new activity. This will help keep things interesting and help you both stay engaged in the relationship. For example, go to a local class or workshop, explore some local trails, volunteer together, or try a new sport. Other ideas include make each other gifts, have dedicated screen-free time regularly, cook a new recipe together, recreate your favorite dates, or take walks together.

10. Making Time for Each Other.

Finally, it’s important to make time for each other. Make sure that you’re both taking the time to spend quality time together and reconnect. This will help keep the spark alive in your relationship.

If you’re feeling like your relationship is becoming boring, it’s important to take action to keep it alive. Recognize the problem, assess the situation, explore new activities, set new goals, re-evaluate habits, communicate with your partner, practice mindfulness, seek professional help, try something new, and make time for each other. With these tips, you can get out of a rut and make your relationship exciting again.

For more information on signs of a boring relationships and how to fix, see VeryWellMind’s Signs of a Boring Relationship and What To Do About It, HolisticConsultant’s What Does Being Bored In Your Relationship Mean, and AConsciousRethink’s Bored In Relationship?

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